Photo credit: Sophie LeMay
I am done being poked, prodded, cut, and poisoned.
Somehow, it seems I am finished with my work here on earth as well.
Chicago treatments aren’t working.
Why?
They were not able to replicate what I was receiving in Istanbul closely enough.
Should I have stayed in Turkey? Maybe, but I was not near remission there either…my body couldn’t hold onto the progress I’d made there through so many brutal treatments. I’ve lost ~6 months of hard work.
I’ve loved being home with John, Sophie, and Grant and would have made this tradeoff to come home with full knowledge of what would happen.
At some point, even with integrated chemotherapy, the bone marrow gives out.
I’m nearly there, and nowhere near remission.
There are no effective immunotherapies that seem to be ready for me now either.
We have done absolutely everything, but I am suffering. It has become hard to eat and drink, with cancer disrupting all of that.
My body is done. It’s time to find peace and pass as painlessly as possible.
We are initiating hospice.
A few last thoughts…
I’m glad I learned…
- How much I love my family. John, Sophie, and Grant are my favorite people. Rocky too. Being with all of them has been comforting.
- How liberating it is to dissociate from emotional toxicity…better late than never
- How much I’ve enjoyed being alive for as long as I have been
- How to navigate cancer, with John’s constant partnership, to be alive and mostly out of pain this long…NOT without complaint, mind you. This whole thing is obscene. Courage amounted to going through these treatments, anyway.
I wish…
- CA125 testing were standard for perimenopausal women (note you can ask for this and order it yourself through any number of lab services, e.g., requestatest.com); there are many false positives but secondary imaging will let you know if you need to take action (which could be as simple as having your fallopian tubes removed)
- Gynecologists listened to women coming in with unusual symptoms (bloating, UTI’s, post-menopausal bleeding) the first time
- The integrative care I received in Turkey was fully available in the US
- Effective treatments were available for the majority of ovarian cancer patients – chemo simply doesn’t work most of the time.
- Chemotherapy for all cancers is ultimately replaced by immunotherapies that don’t damage our bodies
- Preventive cancer care, including clean nutrition and environments, becomes normal from birth on. This would be “gold standard of care.”
- I could stick around for the fun part with John, Sophie, and Grant
- I had more time to live, love, work, enjoy
I hope…
- Sophie, Grant, and John can remember me when I was well, forgive me for not being able to stay that way, and live fully without me
- That you will help them do that and keep them company; there is never a good time to leave
- That their memories of me provide comfort as they navigate a new normal without the wife and mom they knew until now
- That my words provided some inspiration along the way, and they might continue to do so (Currency of Empathy holds true; Cancer Culture: Fixing the Landscape by Infusing Empathy to be published soon…)
- That life in some form continues so I can keep my family company somehow…I believe this is true…I just don’t know how. Soon, I’ll find out. It’s a big adventure, really. I’m not afraid of death, just the painful part before the transition…
- That I get all the answers to the questions I have about health, life, the point of everything…my version of heaven. Even Google can’t do all that.
- That my dad meets me on the other side
- That in the life after this time on earth, I again experience the kind of wholeness and joy which has been hard to access while accepting cancer treatments, dealing with many constraints, and living with constant discomfort (who knows how it works but maybe pizza and wine come back on the celestial menu…Minna’s dumplings and peach cobbler, Aunt Rusty’s spaghetti, Grandma Acho’s tacrathas)
- That you who get to carry on here with life on earth, enjoy retirement, have fun with your spouse, travel as much as you’d like, watch your kids graduate, become adults, get married, and have kids (if they so choose).
- That you get to rock your grandkids…that maybe you’ll even rock mine and somehow let them know how much I love them already
I’m grateful…
- For the unfettered love I’ve experienced in my life
- For the partnership and family John LeMay and I have built; may it sustain him even in my absence…as I’ve told him, he’s so loveable and deserving of partnership in his life still, but I get first dibs in heaven.
- For the work I’ve been able to do in the world
- For a healthy body that supported all of that for ~50 years, with hardly a thought about time limits
Maybe we always want more time.
I bet we do. I know I do.
But it’s time to rest, and I’ve earned it.
Thank you for your company, love, and prayers.
Much love back to you.
Peace and love to you and the family Jackie.
xo
You are and will always be a huge gift in this universe and in my life. Thank you for teaching me.
Much love back to you
You’re an incredible person and inspiration, Jackie. Thank you for sharing your journey and your lessons. You’re in my thoughts and prayers.
Ty🙏
So much peace and love. You’ll always have a place in my mind and my heart.
Xo
Jackie, you never do anything in half measures including how you say good bye to all of us who have watched, listened admired, laughed, and cried from you before and during your cancer journey. You are truly a gift on earth and heaven is gaining a wise and empathetic angel. Your legacy will continue.
Xo
This makes me so sad and yet emboldened too. You have been a shining example of grace and beauty, intelligence, inspiration, love and steeled resolve. May God lead you home to a place where pain is no more and light shines perpetually. May your family find peace and those of us who know you keep you in their hearts and memories.
🙏❤️😘
You deserve a rest now. You impacted alot of people’s life’s and we all love you.
Ty🙏
Maybe one day words will come. Even then, they’ll never be enough. Thankfully, you already know. 🍀
🔮 I Love You!
Yes I do
Love you too!
Jackie – your words are heartfelt and inspirational. I don’t know you personally, but it is clear you are a gift to the world. Thank you for sharing your soul. My deepest appreciation to you and family.
❤️🙏
You are such a brave warrior. I have so many fond memories of our cooking and eating adventures so many years ago. God’s peace be with you. You are so loved.
Thanks so much🙏
Jacky
You made everyone you came across feel wonderful. Thanks for caring for everyone so much and taking the time to share your journey, even as you part from the earth. I will see you on the other side and we will go on our hike.
Love you
Love you too Carmen
I treasure our time together at Hawken and all the love and encouragement you generously shared with our budding thespians. I wish you peace, release, and eternal love on your continued journey. We are honored to have shared a small part of it with you.
The feeling is mutual
Ty❤️
Jackie,
Your voice in your writing is beautiful, even in the most excruiating moment. Your impact on so many people, your beautful children, your impactful work…will continue to live on for a long time. I have faith the Hawken community will step up to help your grieving family and hopefully give them way to move forward to find the joy I know you want for them.
Sincerely,
Scott
Ty🙏
Jackie – Just saw your beautiful farewell. You are, indeed, a blessing to the world
You will be missed but your presence wil be felt for a long time! May your passage be an easy one. God’s peace.
🙏
Jackie:
I am humbled and inspired by your courage, your honesty, your pure love for your dear husband and dear children. It has been and continues to be a privilege to pray for you and your family. I only wish I had been there in person.
Love you,
Leslie from Team Jackie
Ty so much for your steadfast fellowship
Much love
Oh Jackie, this world is a better place because of you. Your love, beauty and inspiration has been a gift. We are lifting you and your family up in prayer. You are all so loved. Peace my friend. Love you.
Great words from a truly wonderful human. I think you’ll always inspire me, because your voice has been so consistently positive and thoughtful. You’ll always resonate with love energy. I’ll miss you! . ❤️❤️
Xo
Love u too
Thank you for all your wisdom. We’ve never met but you’ve inspired me to live my life fully. Sending love to your family as they navigate the days of grief ahead May your journey forward be peaceful lovely lady.
🙏
Jackie, I wish I had gotten to spend time with you when I was in Cleveland. Your words have touched my heart and my soul. You have given us so much of yourself. I don’t understand life and each of our journeys. I so hope we do have another time and place to give us the answers. Thank you Jackie for sharing your life with me. Bless you and your family.
Ty🙏
Dear Jackie.
We, embrace you , we from Azerbaijan who got to know you because if your dear friendship with Aida Huseynova in Istanbul. Aida passed in June this year but you meant so much to her and she shared your graduation speech with us which was the best graduation speech we had ever heard. Thank you for taking your pain and questions and search for answers and being such an inspiration to us. We embrace you and send our deepest gratitude.
I think of Aida often with love
Thank you for sharing 🙏❤️
Jackie, John, Sophie, and Grant –
I really only know about you because I know, love and adore people who know, love and adore you. Please know that your presence and influence is deep and touches us all, whether we’ve had the privilege to know you directly or as admirers of your’s. May you find the peace, wisdom and comfort in one another that you have so graciously shared with all of us.
Ty🙏
I wrote this first for the family of a beloved patient who died, and have revised several times with nodal deaths in my life. This is your revision. I have never shared it before a death. Your gift of letting us know that you are done, calls me to share it with you now. I know you will receive it, recognizing the respect and love that calls me to send it.
A Prayer for Those Who Still Survive
Tenderly, time called her name
She answered and was born, again
Released from life, released from pain
At her request, at last death came
Reconciled and full of Grace
The kiss that’s laid upon her face
Lifts her home where she belongs
Among the good, the healed, the strong
Leaving us with one last gift
To see a life so fully lived
To see the meaning of this life
Fulfilled by those who still survive
Surrounded by her legacy
Her spirit set forever free
No longer bound by words of earth
She sings a joyful song of birth
And we who love her feel the song
To love, she tells us, we belong
Scott Frank, 2001. Updated for Jackie Acho, 2022
Beautiful
Ty🙏❤️
Dear Jackie:
It has been a very long time since we last saw each other or spoke. I am so sorry to learn about this. I have many hours of prayer coming up as the Yom Kippur holiday approaches and I can promise that you and your family will very much be in my prayers. Your life has been a blessing to others and it will be up to us to keep your goodness alive, by carrying on your legacy. I will do whatever part I can in making sure that that happens.
In brokenness,
Robbie
Ty🙏
So beautiful an inspiration truly leaving a legacy!
Ty🙏
I knew you were an exceptional person during the summer we worked together at Dow Corning. You were incredibly bright but also had such an infectious personality and zest for life….I knew you were destined to do great things which you most certainly did. Your work and focus on the power of empathy is exactly what this world needs…we need all people caring for one another for mankind to reach its true potential. You were a brilliant scientist but I always knew your true gift and passion was connecting with people. You have left such a positive impact and legacy which will carry on with all of us. You have shown all of us that love is the true answer.
Ty🙏❤️
You will always be in my thoughts and in my heart. Forever. You are the most beautiful person I’ve ever known – or will ever know – in every way that word has meaning. Thank you, Jackie. Thank you for being you and giving the world your all. I love you.
Ty
Xoxo❤️
Oh dear Jackie,
Your courage, your words of wisdom, your never-ending empathy and what you have taught us all about empathy will be only a part of your ever-lasting legacy.
What an inspiration you are!
You are loved and will never be forgotten.
Ginger Ratcliffe
Sweet Jackie I don’t know that there are words for this. Even through this ordeal you have worked to guide us, to help us understand not just the science (or frustrating lack thereof) but also simply and importantly- how to just be. You and all your loved ones are in my heart
xo
Dear Jackie, it has been such a gift to read your blog, feeling like time shrank a bit, back to when we first met and you told me about your Come To Jesus talk before deciding on marriage to John. We were such babes. Sharing your learned wisdom with all of us has permanently impacted me for good. Thank you so much. I look forward to the next life when hearing about our Come To Jesus talks will have new meaning. Love to you all.
Xo
Dear Jackie,
I am awed by your fierce awareness and authenticity in letting go, when there is so much to let go of – for all of us. We sojourners and survivors have so much to pay attention to. Thank you for caring even at this moment in time. I am grateful for your allowing me to be with you each Wednesday evening and to hold you in my heart during other days. Your spirit will live on in who you have been and who you are in this moment. With much love,
Eleanor Hooks
I can’t thank you enough for your loving company. Blessings to you. Xo
Oh Jackie. How I love your openness, your forthright and insightful nature, your loving wit, your clarity. I wish you all of these things now and every day. I adore you.
What an amazing, courageous woman! Your generosity is your legacy. I cannot thank you enough for all the learning.
ty
Oh, Jackie. Such difficult news to process. Please take comfort in that you are loved, you have made a difference in so many ways and that your work and legacy will live on. Prayers to you and your family.
Jackie thank you for the inspiration that is YOu. I am so grateful to have known you even for this short time when most of it was characterized by cancer. And yet that didn’t prevent your spirit, your empathy, from breaking through to everyone you encountered. Thank you. Well done life and the gift of you.
Thank you for being so open and sharing your journey. I wish you peace and love and will be praying for you and your family.❤
Ty🙏
Thank you for sharing all your experiences. I am so damn sad for your family. Please accept my love as you walk your final lap
Jackie the best memories I have is when we used to go skiing coming to your house going to the club I will cherish those moments forever . I admire your courage and strength I know that you will have the best second life in heaven this is hell on earth you will be reunited with your dad and loved ones,, i love you god bless you.
xo
Jackie
Please know how impactful and heartfelt your story has been. Your words and courage to share the most difficult parts of the last couple of years is astounding. Your children will be loved and they will know what a fighter you are. The fact that you are finding peace and sharing your comforting words to others is a testament to the kind of badass woman you are. Thank you for being part of the church Village years ago when the boys attended Sunday School. Thank you for teaching others the true meaning of Empathy and thank you for being you.
❤️❤️
xo
Jackie, wishing you the painfree peace you so deserve.
I do admire your courage at every stage of this. I’m grateful to the gifts you have given to the world. Your family will feel your Spirit -. I believe this – and it will always enrich their lives. Godspeed, my friend. I add mine to all the love surrounding you and hold you through this transition. May it go easy.
Jackie, sending you so much love as you enter into this next space. Your courage is beautiful. Your family is amazing. I have loved knowing you. In sadness and love,
Anna
Oh, Jackie you’re an amazing person I will never ever forget our friendship and the love you always gave me. You know I was always told you get very few friends in a lifetime. But the Lord has blessed me with many and you and your family are in that number.. I love you Jackie..
love you too
Dear Jackie,
You know everything I have to say, but I’ll say it again to share with you and others. We have not left anything unsaid … and we say it again and again because it is that deep.
You are an extraordinary woman, wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, and leader. Sophie, Grant, John and Rocky (and many many others) will always remember you well. You have created the most beautiful family and a strong and durable foundation for them and for others. I know your father is waiting for you on the other side.
Your work on empathy and building awareness in all who you touch is extraordinary and will last. Ditto for your work on cancer, therapies, and moving our understanding forward. Your work has changed individual lives, institutions, and communities.
I know that you will always be sitting with me, in my heart and just floating above my right shoulder. We will be sipping coffee and eating that sweet chocolate marshmallow on the banks of the Bosporus in Istanbul…. or perhaps getting that facial at Kate Somerville in Hollywood. Know that I will always be here for John, Sophie and Grant. I love you so much and that will never end. We are together forever, just like they say in high school yearbooks. Love and peace, Jackie. Thank you for all you have given me and so many others.
Dear Jackie,
I’m so sad to read your news, but I so admire your bravery and your honesty with your health. You have impacted so many people in your life, and your work on empathy has impacted me deeply. My heart hurts for John, Sophie and Grant (though I know none of you personally). While I know that nothing will be the same in their lives once you have left this earthly plane, I wish them all peace. May your memory always be a blessing in their hearts.
I wish you comfort and peace. I will keep you in my thoughts. God speed.
ty so much
You have fought a hard battle. Sorry to hear that it wasn’t enough. Thank you for all the information you have given all of us. You will be missed and loved. Proud to be your cousin. Thoughts and prayers for your family and you.
Jackie, so sorry to read this. After going through what my family went though with my mother’s cancer journey, I know your road has not been easy. Sending so much love and light your way. Know that your posts and teachings have resonated with me deeply. Thank you for being such a good friend to my aunt and uncle as well — your family is always welcome at any Pollock residence. Prayers 💜
xo
Dear Jackie— My prayers have been with you and your family daily and will continue. May you have the peace that surpasses all understanding, comforted by so many who love you. I am forever grateful for our time at McK together, and I am honored to know you. All my love to you and your family.
xo
Thank you for sharing. I am sad and heartbroken. For some reason, I was looking to hear that breakthrough has happened and the beauty that you see in living, in this world and your contributions to making this world more empathetic and beautiful would just go on. I will be part of your team to spread your words and all that I have learnt from you. Wishing you peace and calm 🙏🏽
xo
My dearest Jackie, if I only had a fraction of your eloquence to find the words I want to say . . . Truly you are not leaving us because your beautiful soul has touched our hearts, and that will remain forever. I wish John, Grant and Sophie strength to find peace, and I hope and look forward to one day seeing your smiling face again.
xo
Jackie – from day 1 you were an inspiration to me. You will continue to be for a long time coming. Sending much love and peace.
xo
Your many beautiful written words will live forever, Jackie. As will the examples of tenacity and courage which you and John have given us throughout your so much undeserved battle. We will always remember the goodness you have brought to those fortunate to have met you and to have read your works.
With our deep affection and prayers that your wishes and hopes here will be realized.
Graham & Joan xo
xo
Hello, Jackie. Gail and I both want to hold your hand for a moment in cyber-space and thank you for the many bright spots you provided in our lives. I believe that those last somehow into Eternity, along with the other flashes and glows of the things people are talking about above. Gail always said you were one of the smartest, cleverest, most beautiful people she ever met, and I always agreed. All our love.
xoxo
I’m very sorry about this news . I went to high school with John. I have watched your guys Facebooks throughout the years and watched you guys grow as a family. I am always thinking about your family to the end..
Ty
Jackie I am so sorry that these treatments haven’t worked. You have been a shining example of grace as you navigated this journey and your posts about your struggle have inspired many of us to try to lead a better, healthier life. I am praying for a transition of peace and joy and I will continue to pray for John, Sophie and Grant. God has blessed all of us who know you.
xo
Grateful to have met you. You have touched so many more people than you will ever know. Xo
xo
I’ve been blessed to have you in my life.
I will conserve the words of your legacy with the greatest amount of care and artistry. I can’t think of a more unique way we’ve share a friendship.
Thank you! Admiration! Grateful! Tranquility!
Love!!!
🙏❤️
Jackie,
I am so saddened to read I’m Done, but I know that, given what you have “done” in/with your life, that the hope and inspiration you have provided for all those whose life you have touched (and will touch through the work you have done and books) is soooooooo not done.
Susan Colby said, far more eloquently than I ever could, how much you and the light you bring to the world will be missed, but more to the point, remembered..
TY so much
Dear Jackie,
Peace and love to you and your family. I cherish and will cherish all the memories with you over the past 20+ years. Love you.
Love you Gifford Pollocks so much
Dear Jackie,
I think you know from the loving comments you have received, that you are truly an inspiration. For those lucky enough to have known you, your humor, energy and wisdom have left us in awe. We are better people for having known you. In this crazy country, you have been a truth teller for anyone who has the courage to listen. Go in peace to love and serve the Lord.
🙏
Oh Jackie, I think of you often! And will continue to do so. You have taught me so much – about consulting, serving others, living by example, and doing work that matters. I’m so sorry for the pain this stupid disease inflicted on you and your family. Thank you for being you. Peace.
TY
xo
Jackie~
The best my words can do right now is to assure you that we will all walk with you every moment. You have made this world a better place and your work and talent will remain long after all of us have moved into a new life. I will cherish our special times- your engagement; your wedding ceremony and incredible reception at Walnut Creek; holding both Sophie and Grant in my arms as infants and hearing Sophie yell out “PURPLE” when I asked her about her favorite color when she was a toddler and yes, enjoying those wonderful tacrathas that your Mom learned so well and stocked my freezer with! You can bet that your Dad is right with you this moment and will be right there to embrace you in welcome. But now please now we carry you in thought and prayer and will remain grateful for the difference you have made in this world and in the lives of so many.
Forever grateful and with love….
fr. Brian
Love you, Father Brian. So grateful for your company all along the way
Dearest Jackie,
My heart, my love and my
prayers for peace are with you until and beyond your transition. The world has been enriched by your life, work and gift for teaching and sharing. The world will be greatly diminished without you in it. God must need a wise and winsome angel and knows how to pick the most self-actualized and evolved souls. Rest assured, your spirit will live on and shine bright. You have inspired so many of us. Thank you for sharing your journey with us and your keen observations of life, healing and need for improvement. Your books need to be required reading for all 1st year medical and nursing students…for any person-facing profession.
I love you dear sister-from-another-mister. I cannot wait to see you again on the other side. My patents needs to meet you…make sure you have tea and dolma with them. Love, light and no more pain, dear friend.❤️
xoxo tea and dolma with your parents, yes…that sounds delightful
Oh my heart is breaking. Your strength and words are such an inspiration.
xo
I’m too upset to formulae any words to describe my emotions. I love you too pieces and have always bragged to everyone how intelligent and beautiful my namesake. This is not fair.
I have always loved you so much too, Uncle Jack. I’ve lived a wonderful life…just wish there were more time. So glad I got to meet Aria.
Jackie
This devastating news just makes me cry, a lot. The loving comments, all of which I agree with, make me even more grateful that I got to spend time with you.
I am sure that your soul will live on in all of us whom you’ve touched, your words will provide advice and guidance for many years to come, your fierce and fighting spirit will inspire and bring a smile.
I will keep your love of dissecting characters in a book by my side. I will keep your dedication to wellness through food and supplements as my resource, I will keep your passion for finding answers as my energy. You are and will always be loved.
XO Jennifer
Xoxo
Jackie, I have no words. Other than to tell you that you have always been one of my heroes…long before your brave battle with cancer. You’ve had such a huge impact on my life in all the best ways and I love you. I love the idea of your dad waiting for you on the other side.
Love you too, Jen. And I look forward to a nice dinner with my dad…so much. Xo
Jackie,
Sending you peace and so much love. You have been a gift to so many with your transparency.I pray we find a cure for this awful disease.
TY
Jackie, I have no words asides saying you are a true warrior❤️
Xo
Jackie,
though we never got to have that tequila together. , I feel as if I know you through your writing.and appreciate every word. Wishing you peace.
With love, jo
xo
Jackie, I send you warmth, admiration, peace, serenity, and contentment. You have provided the world with an energy that makes the world better, including my world in Shaker Heights and at organizations you’ve helped lead.
You have loved and cared sooo much. You have such marvelous realities in your past, such potentiality you have actualized, such meaning you have fulfilled, values you have realized, and nothing and nobody can ever remove these assets from your time here on Earth. (That sentence very liberally paraphrased & borrowed from Viktor Frankl…). I have always loved that idea from Frankl – no one can ever remove from Earth what you have done. It is forever; you are forever.
Much–and forever–respect and friendship– Becca
You are the bravest most truth-seeking friend and a forever inspiration. May your continued faith sustain you and your family. Sending you all the love in the world. I love you Jackie, and will always treasure our walks and talks.
Jackie, John, Sophie, Grant-feeling such love and heartache.. Jackie you are beyond powerful. Thank you for sharing where you are. I still want to come rub your feet❤️❤️❤️
Love u
I am sorry Jackie. I love you.
Love you too
Jackie
You are an amazing inspiration. Ever since our paths crossed in Cleveland, I have always been impressed by your inspirational people skills, your ability to think as clearly as you do, and the impact you have had on so many. Your family is beautiful. They’ve been moulded by your love. I dearly hope you find the peace and calm you seek. I will treasure our interactions forever.
Ty so much
The feelings are mutual
Peace, and prayers. Your voyage, and the clarity with which you’ve communicated it, will long outlive you: you’ve given hope and peace and love to many through this work and your journey. May all who have to tread this road – and most of us will – take it with the grace and courage and self-awareness you’ve demonstrated. Bless you and the family.
Xo
Dear Jackie,
You’ve built a beautiful life, planted good seeds in this world and leave an inspiring legacy.
Now, even during such a special moment, you took the time to share your wisdom. Thank you.
Your light shines bright and it always will. ✨
Wishing you love, peace and blessings. ❤️
Xo
Dear Jackie,
I cherish the moments teaching your kids piano and getting to know you in between their lessons.
I have no doubt you will see your father.
You will always be remembered.
Thank you for being you.
Love to you and your family.
Jennifer
Ty
Xoxo
Jackie,
I pray for a peaceful and pain-free transition as you move to the next place on your journey (where I am sure you will get a big hug from your father).
Xo
Jackie,
A star has dimmed in my world after reading your goodbye letter. You are such an inspiration to me. I really enjoyed being so proud of you in high school and in college. Watching your family grow through Facebook was a pleasure. It is time to rest and let God bring you home. I look forward to seeing you on the other side.
Xo
Jackie, I hold you with respect. It was a pleasure to partner with your family when I taught Sophie, and it was fun to reconnect on the sidelines watching Grant. Your life, love, and spirit will continue to be a model.
Ty so much 🙏
Jackie,
I am beyond sad to read this. I weep with you and John, Sophie, and Grant. Your life has had such wide impact. You have challenged others providing perspective to make change in the world. May you and yours know the strength and peace only God can give. Sending my love to you. Always praying for you.
Love,
Lisa
🙏ty dear friend
Much love
You will be with us always, Jackie. And, yes, you indeed are a Saint. You’ll see. Just from the other side. Wishing you the best forever. tp
🙏
Jackie,
How amazing that we could meet in Ann Arbor in 1987, and that you could be such a big part of my life even though we live so far apart. From the questionable vegetarian food and even more questionable hygiene standards at Osterweil coop, to being at each other’s weddings, to seeing you in Ann Arbor for my 40th and NYC for my 50th, you have always been part of the major moments in my life. Every career choice, parenting quandary, political musing or joyful travel experience has benefitted from your extraordinary insight, intelligence, humor, and of course, empathy.
You’ve been a North Star of academic brilliance, radiant beauty, professional accomplishment, dedicated wife – and mother-hood, and peerless friendship for so many decades now. Your example will always shine so brightly.
You have accomplished more in life than anyone could ever imagine possible.
You inspire us all to be worthy of your example.
Sending all my love now and forever to Sophie, Grant and John.
You will always be in my heart.
Ty
Xoxoxoxo
Cookie-I owe so much to you such from being a great friend from the early days at MIT to introducing me to Dorothy. I’ve also watched my mom make a similar cancer journey, and say those same very hard words I’m done/no more to her family as well. Nobody will forget you and the impacts of your story.
Chud
😘😘😘
Jackie – Evelyn and I just saw this post. We are heartbroken. We had truly hoped your care in Turkey over the summer would have helped your health turn a corner.
Graduate school seems like so many lifetimes ago but thinking about it still brings back great memories of cooking together and late nights in the lab. Life has taken us in all sorts of different directions since then. You and John have raised two amazing kids – who are no longer kids but will keep you in their hearts forever. Evelyn and I raised Sam who just this past spring graduated from CU and is now working in Boulder as a software engineer in the aerospace industry.
Physical distance and the merry-go-round of career and family kept us from seeing you very often these past years but know that you have been on our minds. I am not a prolific writer of personal letters or emails (clearly a character fault I must own up to) but you touched so many lives in profound ways – my own included. We have one final bottle of port from the collection of wines you gave Evelyn and I for our wedding. We were supposed to wait to enjoy it next August on our anniversary. We will drink it now however and think about all the ways you changed our lives.
Know that you are loved and we will continue to think of you and smile for the great times we had together.
Xoxo
Jackie, thank you
My heart is breaking, I have sat in hospice far too much and I cannot stand to think of you there. Much love my friend.
🙏😘
Jackie,
We love you and will do all that you ask us to do. I am so happy we were able to see you and John in Chicago and share some amazing memories together. You are are beautiful women body and soul. That soul will live with us forever. I wish you peace. With love and admiration, Maggie
Ty😘
Jackie:
This news is devastating to all who know you, but none more than your husband and kids. I still remember when Hunter and I joined you for breakfast near the start of the engineering hiring initiative; you had opted for local consulting because McKinsey kept you away from home too much… and also made being home in the summers a priority for you & the kids. I initially thought I learned the most from you watching your extraordinary interviewing, strategizing, and presenting, but I have thought often of your dedication to family in my own parenting. Finally, your approach to this devastating disease has been inspiring on every level, infused with empathy, intellect, perspective, creativity and, most of all, love. Please know you will live on in so, so many hearts–more than you can imagine–and treasured by many more.
Chris Sheridan
Ty so much 🙏
Dear Jackie
Your spiritual energy touched me when I worked for you at McKinsey doing some project. You are Grace in the human form. Distantly, we have walked with you on your journey and like many others, found lessons of courage, love and empathy. Thank you for being that light.
Hugs from Solana Beach,
Anjou and Siddhartha
Ty🙏
Dear sweet brilliant Jackie,
Wishing you peace and love forevermore. Thank you for ALL of your gifts and blessings.
XOXOX
-Laura
Xoxo
Jackie,
In addition to working with amazing students at Hawken, I also meet inspiring and fascinating parents. I am so grateful to have met you and John during Sophie’s years at Hawken. You have become a stealthy mentor to me as a professional and a woman of a “certain age.” Your advocacy for empathy education has impacted me and changed my work and life. I wish you peace and light as you spend your remaining time with your family. I imagine you sitting outside looking at the changing leaves with the sun warming your face.
🙏
Thank you for the gift of you! Thank you for the wisdom that you have imparted to so many over the years. Thank you specifically for the wisdom that you have imparted to me on my fight with ovarian cancer. My prayers are for John, Grant and Sophie to always know your love and for you to meet your dad in Heaven over a big plate of whatever makes you feel happiness. God speed my friend! 💙
I rocked my grand child Oliver tonight and I thought of you . For a moment it felt like we were doing it together. I promise to do it again and again, I know you will enjoy that. Thank you for all your gifts .
🙏
Oh my courageous friend! I just cannot imagine a world without you. Without cancer, yes, but not you. You hold a special place in my heart always. I will always treasure the time we had together. I was so looking forward to our traveling together & sharing meals. I was at the very least looking forward to cooking together one more time. My heart is so broken, but I promise to follow all your good, solid, appreciated advice. I love you always!
Love you too🙏
Jackie –
Thank you for sharing your journey with us as it has been of great value.
I truly believe that while you may move on from this life that you will not be gone. You will be in the hearts and bodies of your children. You will be in the raising of your children and their children’s children. You will be in their laughter and in their eyes following a lifelong pattern you have set before them. You will be in their caring and in their strength. You are in the minds of all of us who have known you and who you have influenced. When those you love search their hearts for good memories they will know that you are not gone.
May God bless you and your family, especially in the difficult days ahead.
Ty🙏
Your grace, strength and perseverance have been inspiring. We are all better to have known you. Your legacy is vast with your books, blogs, and wonderful family and friends. I wish you peace my friend.
Ty😘
Jackie, I’ve sat here and read and reread this in my streams of tears. In your 54 years, you have become a pillar in the community, in our church, and in the hearts of so many friends including me and my family…and still are while facing the next phase of your life. I’m in awe of your strength, your courage and your acceptance.
I wish you peace…painless peace. I know I speak for all of us as we are collectively holding you and your family deep in our hearts and prayers…and won’t ever let go.
I hope you do get to hug, eat and laugh with your father. And watch Grant & Sophie flourish from above.
I’m grateful for all the time I’ve spent with you, listening and learning from you; laughing and yoga-ing with you.
You are an amazing woman….thank you my friend xo Char
Oh Jackie, my heart is broken. I know I haven’t seen you in years but I have followed your journey from college on.
I do believe your dad will be there to greet you at the golden gates with a great big hug. I will help your family keep an eye on your mom.
We love you dear Jackie! There will definitely be a void in this world.❤️😘🙏🏻❤️
Xo
Jackie, I’m so sorry to hear this.. you are such an inspiration to everyone, you’ve given so much of yourself to help others, my love and thoughts are with you and your family and may God bless you always and into eternity, I will always think of you and will be reading your blogs over and over again, your journey is engraved in my heart in mind. I will remember the times that we were at the club playing golf and the times I’ve always seen your beautiful smiling face. Xo Karen
Xo
Jackie- YOU are LOVE.
❤️🙏
You are a remarkable woman. I have learned so much from your journey. Thank-you for sharing it with all of us. I don’t know what else to say, except, that I wish that all of your hopes and wishes come true.
Love,
Karla
Xo
I love you, beautiful lady. You’re in my heart forever.
Xo
Love you Aunt Jackie!
Love you too sweetheart
I’ll find a way to dance at your wedding❤️
With Nana
I bet she’ll even join you in a glass of wine!
I received your friend request, and hence access to your blog, in what turned out to be the day a dear friend of mine died far too young from Ovarian Cancer. I found enormous comfort, and hope for you and others, through your words. I am so sad that your journey here is done, but thank you for all you have given to others. I pray you will find peace and delights and answers on the other side, and thank you for your remarkably timed friend request. 🙏
🙏
Jackie, What a gift to the world you are! Your courage, grace and candor during this difficult journey has only cemented my impression of you and the extremely special person that you are. I can’t imagine solving the world’s problems without you, but your lessons on empathy will always guide me to at least try. I am praying for you, John and your children and wish you peace, comfort, abundant love and warm thoughts and memories. Love you much!
Love you too Randy
Jackie, holding your hands as you hold mine. Even though our grasp will part, your impact will not, Cheers to what comes to you in the next world. Your impact here will be forever. Much love and strength winging their way to you and your loved ones, Laura
Ty🙏
Your words, your brilliance, your wisdom and your courage will stay with me always. Xxoo Love, Lila
🙏xoxo
Dear Jackie…this is heartbreaking. I have been following you and sharing your blog to others fighting cancer. You have made an incredible contribution to fighting cancer and helping others and enlightening us all on cancer. I will cherish my memories of you and your family and pray for your peace. What an incredible human being you are! It’s hard to even put into words what I am thinking or to say the right things. Sending love, hugs, and prayers to you and your family. Xoxo
Ty🙏
Xoxo
Dear Jackie,
My heart breaks to hear this news. You have fought the good fight. It has been a privilege to know you. God bless you and your family. 🙏🏻
Diane
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Jackie – You have made a lasting impact in this community and world – you built a beautiful family and community around you with insights and lessons that carry us all forward. Thank you for the blessing of you. Your time on earth is being cut way too short but your impact is deep and enduring. Much love to you and your family in the moments, hours and days ahead. Xoxoxo
Ty😘
Dear Jackie – you are a fierce, passionate, insightful truth teller – I have learned so much from you. Thank you for helping me (and many others) think about what matters in this world. And shed what does not. You have always conveyed that so clearly and with candor but never more than these past few years while we have watched your courageous and bold journey. I am praying for you and your family – we will all be there with you every step of the way. Much love, hugs and peace to you. XOXO
Ty xoxoxo
Clarity and courage.
I recall when you decided those many years ago to listen to young Sophie’s plea for your time. Who could have known then her prescience? But somehow your deep wisdom met hers and you said yes to her invitation to spend your days with her in love.
I recall your clarity and your courage in charting a different path–one that honored the first things, the deep and true things. I so admired you at that time for your clarity and your courage. I admired your audacity in claiming what mattered the most.
And here you are at the last- continuing to spend yourself in love right up to and through your final days, however these might unfold.
Another wisdom calls out now, assuring that there is no need for fear, for nothing will separate us from love.
Clarity and courage. What a life. What a love.
Thank you, Jackie.
🙏Lisa
I’m good friends with Sophie from being in DuWop at Denison and she’s told me about you and your journey. You have raised such an amazing and compassionate daughter and I wanted to thank you for that. Sending love to you and the rest of your family <3
Ty so much Bree ❤️
Just saw your post fir the first time. You sure have a way with words. And so loved by many. Peace to you.
Ty
Jackie- I haven’t had many mentors in my life, but I’ve felt you are one. The way you mother, love, advocate, work…all of it I admire. Your fire for the truth, your courage in speaking it, your belief we can do better. All of these You inspire me to continue to do. I think we will always want more time. I wanted more with my Ethan. But in his death we still have a powerful relationship. I believe our relationships continue. I’m not sure exactly what it’s like either. I believe your love and spirit will still be. I know I will access it often.
Say hello to Ethan -of course after you see your Dad. Love is forever. It’ has to be. We will carry your legacy. See you soon, Jackie. May our love carry you to the other side.
🙏🙏🙏
Jackie,
For those of us quietly following you, your journey, your words, you have exuded a deep love that is not often found in this world. Your courage inspires beyond words. We fought for life – a whole life – with you in our thoughts and prayers. You are giving us gifts even as you have given your whole self. May you find peace and love beyond all human understanding as you continue your journey into the next realm. You always will be with us in love. May God hold you and your family close.
Ty🙏
Jackie, I’m so very sorry to hear that your courageous battle is coming to an end but I’m so inspired by your courage to fight this horrific battle and I can only imagine how proud yet devastated your family must be. At least you will leave them knowing you did literally everything you could do and to set an example for your amazing children. I admire your courage, strength and love that you’ve clearly exemplified throughout your life. May you be joined with your dad in as peacefully as a transition as possible. Much love to all of you.
Ty🙏
I will always remember your style and grace! While it’s been many years since I’ve seen you; I’ll always remember the kindness you showed me.
Ty😘
Jackie, I’ve sensed this day was coming from your most recent posts, but I’m still so, so sorry to hear your cancer fight is coming to an end. Your writing – and your very being – throughout this time has been nothing short of amazing. I hope some of your blogs will find a place in the second book – they have been written with such eloquence. You’ve demonstrated grace and grit throughout your battle. Even in their sadness, John, Sophie, and Grant must be – and will continue to be – incredibly proud of the way you have fought.
I wish you peace and comfort in your final days, and joy on the other side.
It has been an honor knowing you, and I’m so glad our paths first crossed almost 30 years ago. You will be in my heart.
Ty JR🙏
Be well
God bless you Jackie. You’ve always been so vibrant and inspiring. I will try to follow and help your children. Go to God.
Ty🙏
Sending you so much love and holding you, John, Sophie and Grant in my thoughts. Your strength and grace are a true inspiration. I hope you find that pizza and red wine. ❤️❤️❤️
Ty🙏
Oh Jackie – such a sad note in so many ways but even at this stage you manage to inspire. I’m so grateful for getting to spend time and learn from you 25 years ago and now in recent times getting to learn from your wise words through your blog. You have been so incredibly generous in sharing through the toughest of times. I’ve learned so much and energised now to play some role in sowing the seeds of how the super power of empathy can and must be unlocked in more of us.
I hope your body now gets some reast but I have no doubt your soul and spirit will remain an incredibly positive and powerful force for good.
I dont know if you can fathom just how much of a difference you have made and will continue to make. I know your family will get some comfort from that but you will be missed so much.
Sending all my love to you,
Thank you
Aileen
Thanks so much Aileen 🙏❤️
Jackie,
You will always be an inspiration. Thank you for your compassion in the face of your own challenge. You have proven to be an empathetic, fact-base problem solver focused on continuous learning and sharing your wisdom to selflessly help others.throughout your journey. You have lived and loved well. It is an honor to know you and be your friend. You have earned your peace.
Ty Jeff 🙏
Dear Jackie
I will always remember meeting you lively in vietnam 2012 and all your sharing about empathy since then
Jackie, I am so lucky to know and meet you
Send you a lot of love from Vietnam
Hiep
Xoxo
You have been so full of love, courage, wise insights, and compassion, ever since I met you when you first moved to Cleveland. You have transformed your own personal journey into a gift to others who suffer, particularly those with cancer. Your love will live on forever.
Ty
Xo
I don’t feel I ever got the chance to know you, nor really take you in.
I want to thank you for your sharing, trusting and going your own way on this journey, navigating life and death decisions and determining what your truth is amongst a sea of opinion, data and information to sort through. Learning to listen to the inner Being is perhaps the true journey for us all. It sounds like you have found that voice, and that you have shared it with the world and despite your ravaged physique, may be truly healed.
I look forward to reading your book and trust that it will enlighten us all on how to improve our process to serve those with this difficult diagnosis even better.
Ty
Dear Jackie – I only met you recently at book club and immediately was drawn to your charisma and spirit. I was not familiar with your story until we talked very briefly that night at Lauren’s house. You clearly have left a remarkable legacy with your family and friends. I admire your courage and strength and wish you peace on your next journey. May God and the universe bless you and your family as you take these next steps. Thank you for your inspiration.
Ty🙏
Dear Sweet Jackie,
Bask now in the warm glow of admiration and love from your countless friends.
• Friends who themselves have been warmed by your laugh and your smile
• Friends who are inspired by your courage and perseverance
• Friends who are better people because of you – who see more clearly and feel more deeply because of your insights
• Friends who wish they could somehow be more like you
• Friends who are proud to say, “I know Jackie Acho; she’s my friend.”
Love,
Mike & Nancy Marn
Thank you Mike and Nancy
Much love to you
Jackie,
You are courage and grace personified. You have touched and inspired so many people and will continue to do so. I’m sending love and hugs to you and your family.
My heart is so heavy right now but as Thich Naht Hahn wrote:
“Let us say goodbye, to meet again soon.
We will meet again tomorrow . We will meet at the source of every moment. We will meet each other in all forms of life.”
❤️
❤️🙏❤️🙏
Jackie – I am grateful for the few moments that I have been able to share with you in person and for you sharing your journey which makes us all stronger. You are a gift and your light will continue to shine. Much Love.
Ty🙏
Dear Jackie,
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Love and peace,
Diane
🙏
I am so sorry to read this, Jackie. I wish you peace in your transition. Your legacy will live on. I will continue to advocate for compassionate cancer care in the best ways I know how. Your fight has not been in vain.
Ty🙏
Jackie, I’ve been a lurker throughout your whole journey you’ve been so gracious and generous to share with the world. Just a few words to let you know a bit of additional legacy you leave, as your blogs were read regularly and discussed with me and my husband, marveling at your ingenuity, your tenacity, and your dedication to life and health. Who knew we’d be returning to your words again as we now support a newly diagnosed terminally ill family member. As you are surrounded by your loving family and friends I thought you might feel a bit of pride from knowing how far and how strong your words and strength are to others who’ve only intersected your life for a moment. Thank you for everything you have unknowingly given our family. Love you!!
🙏❤️
Safest of travels Jackie. I hope it’s all you hope. ❤️
Ty🙏
Dear Jackie, I remember the day we met 20+ years ago and am beyond saddened to read this. I am not good with words but want to share this. Wishing you peace and calm. Much love, Jutta
If every single person who has liked you in your
lifetime, were to light up on a map, it would create
the most glitteringly beautiful network you could
imagine. Throw in the strangers you’ve been kind
to, the people you’ve made laugh, or inspired
along the way and that star-bright network of
you would be an impressive sight to behold.
You’re so much more than you think you are. You
have done so much more than you realise. You’re
trailing a bright pathway that you don’t even
know about. What a thing. What a thing indeed.
Donna Ashworth
Beautiful
Ty🙏
Jackie – thank you for sharing your journey (and all of your professional work too) even though you did not have to do so. You have given me and so many others so much to think about and carry forward. Peace and love to you and your family.
🙏
Oh Jackie, My heart breaks for you and your family. I have quietly followed along with your journey and have been so inspired by your beautiful spirit. You are a true warrior. Please know you have inspired so many with your journey, your beautiful writing, and your work with empathy. You’ve created a legacy as beautiful as you are. I am deeply grateful to have known you and wish you peace and comfort.
Ty🙏
Jackie,
You continue to inspire us all. I am praying for your comfort, peace and faith as well as for the strength and faith of John, Sophie and Grant. May you find solace in the fact you are truly loved by so many. Love, Megan
Xo
I loved meeting you
Loved following you in this life and admired you for having bought more time. Do not be afraid as love surrounds you and we will all meet on the other side.
😘😘😘
Jackie, As you may know, my kids and I lost Claudia to cancer 4 years ago. Reading you over the past few years has been such a big part of my personal healing and understanding. I cannot thank you enough for your wisdom and grace and honesty and the help and comfort its brought me. Bless you.
There are too many of us
I’m so sorry, you too
Ty for sharing 🙏
I didn’t know you for very long, but I have a feeling that I’ll never forget you or your kind words. There’s so many things I wish for, but for now I wish you peace and comfort in Gods arms.
Dan
Ty🙏
I think of you often and pray for you more often. Thank you for all the gentle and genuine love you’ve shared with me and so, so many who’s lives you touched : physically, through your teaching, your writing and in every way God has so abundantly gifted you to be empathetic . I pray for your peace over the pain that you fear in the transition and I pray your friends and family are reminded of your great love often in the time we all have left on this side of heaven. God speed my friend & ethereal spirit.
Xo🙏
You extraordinary being. You are always always that. You have changed for the better everyone you have touched. So many. I am grateful to be counted as one. Thank you.
Xoxo
Ty🙏
Jackie,
You will be greatly missed and I was glad you encouraged me to do a TedTalk. You have such courage
Ty Ron🙏❤️
Thank you Jackie for your bravery and strength to share your story and to leave these breadcrumbs behind for all of us. From the day I first met you at a JumpStart board meeting to your most recent blog – every interaction has impacted me personally. I’m grateful to have had you in my universe. I have and will continue to share your journey with others. You are simply amazing. God bless you.
Ty🙏
Thank you for sharing your story and knowledge. It will make a difference to many!
Ty🙏
Thank you for your honesty and courage in the sharing of this heartbreaking journey. Your beauty, intelligence and wisdom have inspired so many. LOVE awaits on the other side, and your dad will be there to welcome you! Grace and peace to you and yours, dear Jackie.
Ty🙏
Congratulations, Jackie, on a life very well-lived and creating love, empathy, and adventure in all who know you. I recall with such fondness that first time I met you in Erieview Tower, knowing that our culture was about to be turbocharged with ideas and a can-do spirit….and it was! Since that time, I have admired your continued evolution as a professional and, more importantly, as a human. You have reflected and inspired every step of the way.
“How I linger
to admire, admire, admire
the things of this world that are kind, and maybe
also troubled —
roses in the wind,
the sea geese on the steep waves,
a love
to which there is no reply?”
— Mary Oliver
Peace to you and your family
Ty🙏
Hugs to you, Jackie, from the bottom of my heart. xoxo
Xo
My darling friend. You have worked so hard and done everything you possibly could. What you leave in your wake ever since I have known you is a trail of kindness, of change, of empathy and passion. I am changed for the better because I know you. I’m glad you will receive deep love around you now. I love you.
Love you too
Jackie,
Your words and your love for everyone has always been apparent to me. You ARE an amazing woman and I am privileged to know you. I wish you peace and no more pain. I wish peace and love to your family and friends. And I wish you know how much we all love you and hold you dear to our hearts.
Namaste my friend,
April ❤️
Namaste
I believe this life is just to prepare us for what’s to come. In just the blink of an eye, we’ll be reunited with the ones we love… I feel that. And until then, you’ve given those yet to cross over the biggest gift on earth…..you. Your strength, your candor, your quest for truth, your beauty. You made us all better. Love you, Jackie Acho. And I’ll see you again.
Ty❤️
Love you Jackie.
Thank you.
Peace to you and your family.
Love you too
Jackie, you are an inspiration to my daughters who have followed your journey, and myself as well. Your work on the Currency of Empathy is ahead of its time but being embraced more and more! You’ve left a timeless imprint on the world. Peace.
Peace
Jackie,
My heart breaks as I read your note. You have been a friend and inspiration to many, a have made countless rooms glow with the warmth and caring you bring. My heart goes out to you and your family. Peace
Ty🙏
Your words offer comfort in more ways than you can imagine. The loss of a loved one leaves so many of us with questions unaswered, hopes unrealized, and words left unspoken. Perhaps what you have so beautifully shared will encourage all of us to say the words and ask the questions, act while we have the chance, and love wholeheartedly in these precious moments. Time is fleeting, we should use it wisely.
I wish I’d known you better. I feel very fortunate to have known you at all.
Ty🙏
Your words have spoken to my heart and many a times exactly what I feel but can’t so eloquently say. Cancer sucks and I’m learning the hard way as you have in your journey. May you find the strength and peace needed to take you home. Know you have made a difference. Heaven will be so lucky to receive another angel!
Ty🙏
Oh Jackie, this hurts my heart to read this. I am so grateful for getting to meet you and the time I got to get to know you. Praying for peace and comfort for you all.
Ty🙏
Jackie,
I am so sorry to hear this news! You are amazing, strong and brave. You fought so hard, You will be missed! I look forward to reading your book!
Ty🙏
Jackie,
It has indeed been an honor working with you. You are an absolute warrior! Your work will forever live on. So find peace and know you’ve changed lives here for the best. God bless!
Ty Michael 🙏
Jackie
I wanted to share that I was fortunate to have seen your latest blog that Karen Lossia shared on FB and have read it several times. I of course was shocked with the news, but selfishly I wanted you to know what your honest words did for me. My younger sister Venis was also stricken with the cancer monster, pancreatic, and she was taken from us far too soon. My life has forever been changed and I’ve struggled to live on without guilt that we didn’t do enough to cure her.. Your words immediately changed me and I finally after 4 years was able to have some of that guilt subside. I thank you for sharing your private journey and sharing every emotion. You will never realize how you have helped me. I pray for your peace and comfort. Thank you. Vera
Thanks so much for sharing
I’m sorry about your sister and glad you have found some peace. Thank you for your prayers. Peace and comfort are just what we need.
Jackie,
This is heartbreaking. I’m so grateful to have gotten to know you at least a little during your journey. I have never seen such grace under such difficult circumstances. You’ve made a really positive difference in a lot of people’s lives.
I don’t have any idea what to say, but know that you and your family are in the prayers of an awful lot of people.
Bless you
Ty🙏
Jackie,
Your bravery, honesty, and generosity in sharing your journey have been inspirational and admirable. Wishing you peace, love, and painlessness in your next steps. Sending hugs and prayers to John, Sophie, and Grant.
XO, Molly Walsh
Ty
Jackie –
You are a caring, wise and sharing person. I have been a fan since we first met when you started as a consultant. In the years since, as you shared your journeys, I relied on your wisdom in your blogs and your book. If you were connected to something I knew it would be outstanding and valuable. You always radiated love for your family, your friends, and the people you worked with.
I will deeply miss you.
David Friedman
Thank you so much David ❤️
You came to mind unexpectedly today, and I went immediately to LinkedIn to see if you had shared any updates. I’m so sad to read this, I hope the days are peaceful and full of love. The love part, I know we can count on. I’ll carry your memory and legacy with me always. Your Dean’s Forum and follow-up workshops at Trinity were the beginnings of my journey toward the faith life, work, and parenting balance that I have come to cherish. You’ve been a mentor through your words and actions throughout the years. Much love, Pam
Thank you for sharing ❤️
Dear Jackie, you are such an inspiration to me and so many others. Your grace and empathy are boundaryless. I remember our interactions, even from so many years ago, in such detail because of your passion and kindness and resonance with the world.
You will live on. May your path forward be filled with grace.
Sending you and your family prayers, peace, and enduring love,
Diana
Ty🙏
Jackie – you are and continue to be such an inspiration and a clear illustration of true grace. I wish you and your family peace, comfort and the ability to share the remaining special moments.
Ty
I am so, so, sad b/c this is not fair and you are so beloved and I will always remember you leading at St. Paul’s and rocking’ a dress from Act 2 at the annual Meeting and celebrating our daughters’ confirmation. Here’s to your Dad greeting you with pizza and wine. You have shown us all in your living and serving and loving and now leaving how to cherish each other and our time on this planet. God be with you beautiful Jackie- you amazing and ever present spirit.
Thank you so much dear Kari 🙏❤️
Jackie, I am sorry that our paths did not cross again. You were a real inspiration for me in Chicago, I learned so much that matters to me now. Thank you.
Ty🙏
Dear Jackie,
It’s so heartbreaking to know that you have suffered so much, but so inspiring to be “with” you on your shared journey, where you have inspired so many. As someone who lost a sibling to a long battle with cancer, I am truly thankful for the lives of those that we love so much. And having the time to share our feelings with each other while we are together. Thank you for your friendship over these many years, and for reconnecting me with and helping me understand empathy, and remembering to put myself in others shoes. It’s lifelong learning! I will never forget you! Fondly, and with love,
Thank you
Love you all
Dear Jackie, I am very grateful for the gift of your letter to all of us. I have read and reread it. I have carefully put it aside so that I might revisit it in times to come. With you. And each time, you will inspire me again with your courage, with the intimacy you have shared with us, with the “unfettered love” and joy you have experienced and shared in your life. Of course, many of us have had prior knowledge, I in our EFM group where I first met you—what a pleasure, and the very many you have inspired in your calls to Empathy and service. You have shown us how to live. Now you are showing us how to bring our lives to a close, and begin anew.
Thank you, Jackie. I love you. God blesses you and watches over you.
Ty🙏
I’m so sorry, Jackie. Go in peace. Your legacy will live in everyone who’s had the good fortune to know you. I’m grateful to be one of them.
You, John, Sophie and Grant will be in our thoughts.
Ty
Jackie,
Words fail me, when Mike shared your post I wept as I read; for you and what you have endured in these last 2+ years, for your family and what they will miss, for your friends and followers and the world. . . And in the same moment, I am awestruck by the obvious profound difference you have made in the world. Your willingness to unabashedly share your wisdom and empathy with everyone is what we are all called to do… and you have and you have changed lives forever and for the better. Thank you for that.
We will be praying you home. Soon you will hear “Well done. Good and faithful servant.”
Wishing you peace.
So nice to hear from you
Ty🙏
Hello Jackie,
I am grieved to read this post as I remember one of our last conversations in person about not wanting to “die bad” so in a way I am happy that you have chosen this route. I am thankful and blessed to have met you and to have been a part of your journey and mission here on earth. You have been such an inspiration to me as a doctor and a person. I have and will continue to share your life and success (even with death) with my patients.
I wish and pray for peace and joy over John, Sophie, Grant, and Rocky as they laugh, cry, and learn to live with you in a different way. Of course, let them remember that my office is here for all of you at any time.
I pray that The Lord blesses you and keeps you, that He makes His face shine upon you and is gracious to you. May The Lord lift up His countenance upon you and give you His peace as He gently calls you back home.
Wishing you peace and love through this journey and the next.
Ty❤️
Jackie – I am sorry that we were not able to help you. Your spirit and fight will inspire us to keep pushing for answers, for cures, for hope. If I can do anything for you or your family please do not hesitate to call me. xo
Thank you Jen
Jackie, You are so very special and always will be. For you and the many you have impacted, I hope for all of your hopes. I would humbly say that you have “done” so much. I just drove through Cleveland today and thought of you. I have and will continue to do this often. My love to you and yours.
Thanks so much Dean
Much love to you and yours
Love you Jackie.
Dear Jackie:
It was such an honor to meet and talk with you at a few LeMay functions.
I knew instantly that you were a very special women whom God created in his image.
We have been praying for your healing… but now we know that God decided that your healing would be in Heaven! You will be whole again, no pain, no sadness, no sickness ever again. I can only imagine what it will be like, when you see Jesus face to face. We will all make it someday, but you will be promoted before us!!!
It’s so difficult to understand, but soon all of your questions will be answered.
My prayer is that your family will have peace in all of this. One day they will understand, but for now we will be holding them up in prayer.
I was so blessed to know you and I will see you in Heaven at my appointed time.
You are so beautiful and I cannot wait to see your beautiful smiling face in Heaven.
Mona Koehler
Ty for these comforting words 🙏❤️
Jackie,
I just wanted to let you know that we are thinking about you, John, Sophie, and Grant. We have great memories of watching the kids play softball, sitting in your kitchen chatting and carrying on and dancing at shaker with you, John and Rochelle. You have been a great wife, mother and a friend/mentor to so many. “Empathy and love” at a time when we need it most. What a legacy. Thank you for sharing yourself with us, we are sending our hugs, prayers and peace to you! Love Jon
Thanks so much Jon
Love to you and yours
Thanks Jackie we are sending our love to you and your family
Jackie –
The courage in this post and the love you show for your family and the people around you is remarkable and unforgettable. We are all better for having you in our lives.
“All humankind is of one author, and is one volume; when one dies, one chapter is not torn out of the book, but translated into a better language; and every chapter must be so translated”
Hello there
Ty❤️🙏
Jackie –
I am heartbroken to hear this news. I have so loved watching from afar as you and John created such a beautiful family and passionately engaged life together. It has been one of my great joys to know I played a small part in helping your deep love take root. Your incredible spirit, wisdom, compassion, and grace have been a gift and inspiration for us all.
You will be in my heart forever. Thank you for being so open about this difficult journey. I know you will be watching over Sophie, Grant, and John, and they will always feel your love.
Sending hugs and all my love,
Libby
I was just thinking about you today
Without you I would never have met John
There aren’t sufficient words to thank you for that inspired kindness. Much love back to you and yours
I thought of you yesterday, and wanted to say again, that you and your family are in my heart prayers. May you and your family continue to be surrounded and in the love that you created and nurtured. Much love to all of you.
Ty❤️🙏
Dear Jackie, from the first yoga class I took with you at Confluence in Cleveland Heights I knew I was in the presence of a very gifted and spiritual person who was yet so down-to-earth! I felt like I’ve known you forever, and I have no doubt I’ll be taking more classes with you in the great mystery that lies beyond. Please bring your inspirational wisdom cards! You and your family are in my most loving thoughts and prayers❣️
Love and miss you Mark
Jackie, regretfully I learned only yesterday that you have been posting communications. For the past 24 hours, I have been reflecting on your powerful words, which are most certainly an indication of the strength and character of the person behind them. Life’s circumstances are not always fair, and frustratingly so for those who have so much to offer. Everyone has been so lucky to have you in our lives. I’m thinking of you and Sophie and Grant and John…..God bless you, Jackie.
David
Thank you, David 🙏
Your life and knowledge has been such a gift to so many of us. May the Lord accept you into his hands and take care of your family always. Godspeed and God Bless.
Thank you 🙏
Jackie,
Your belief in the the power of intention, connection with others and empathy (bka LOVE) to accomplish the seeming impossible was so refreshing after dealing with so many people, for so many years in the cynical world of law enforcement who dismissed my optimism out of hand. Your grand vision for the possibilities of work which sprung from your grand vision of life itself brought a smile to my face the minute you started talking.
You have left an indelible imprint on so many lives and maybe, just maybe the world of law enforcement will be a better place for your having taken a chance on us!
This isn’t goodbye, it’s talk to you later.
God bless you and yours!
Love you bro
Hi Jackie,
It has been a VERY long time since we last spoke. I completely came across this by accident. I wish I had some clever or beautiful words to say. Sadly, that is not my “strength”. It is impossible to process this news. I would just point out the obvious: It is amazing how many lives you have touched, and how much love you have brought into the world. I have never forgotten how intelligent, cheerful, and kind you were to everyone who crossed your path. Thank you for making this world a better place.
Thank you Fari
Jackie, I hope you are comfortable, my dear friend. I will carry in my heart forever sweet memories of time spent with you. I will look up to heaven when I think of you and smile. I will take in the warmth of your smile back at me. Before my dad died, he said he would do more for us in heaven than he could on earth. He has, in so many ways. Sunshine on a wedding day. His hankie in my pocket when I need him to dry my tears. I have no doubt you will do the same in big and small ways for your beloveds, John, Sophie and Grant. I love you, Jackie. Take my love with you to heaven, where we will meet again. ~Cindy
Ty😘❤️🙏
I have had stage for breast cancer for 15 years. I don’t think I have ever read anything more beautiful. Thank you.❤️
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Oh my gosh. Its kind of amazing that I came across your site as I had no idea. Was just looking up something on Osterweil and boom, there it was. Seeing your picture i immediately remembered your laugh and the joy you brought us at the Coop. Remembering walking across the diag and our steps somehow matched up. Many times several of us talked late at night about some random thing in your room. Or waiting in line for the shower which seemed to be a daily issue. On occasion we cooked together and disagreed on the importance of having hot water in the kitchen. Lots of fun. Now Im dating someone who works on immunotherapy. for a small startup here in San Francisco (tallac therapeutics/alx oncologyy). She shares your dream that it can radically help cancer patients though they are not there yet. Wishing you a lot of peace and hope you remember many of tge joyous events at osterweil too. Huge hugs!!!
Nice to hear from you Marcus